Where do we even start?

Hey everyone, my partner and I are getting married in a few weeks and eventually we want to look into starting a family but we quite literally don't even know where to start.

Could someone give a summarized timeline of the steps we should be taking, where to begin, etc?

Some info on us: I am a 33yo female and my soon to be wife is a 42yo female. I most likely have to carry as my partner has a flattened vertebrae in her back. We do not have a good chunk of money saved but will have some after our wedding (however maybe like 5k only). We live in new york state and neither one of our health insurance plans cover anything. One of my friends said he would be a donor but idk if that's even cheaper/easier.

I appreciate any guidance and thank you i advance!