The hate narcissistic mothers have for their daughters is dangerous - you won’t even look the same after the trauma

It’s such a chilling feeling knowing how much your own mother, the woman you birthed you can resent and hate you, for no reason. You know you haven’t done anything but she hates you anyway. Not only that but she attempts to sabotage you and enjoys your weak moments. Enjoys seeing you thrive and do better. Intentionally ruins your special days and special moments.

People say it’s not hate, she’s just a narcissistic, sorry but I know it’s hate… by the way she looks at me, I can see the hatred in her eyes. The way she talks to me with such vitriol and anger. The way she treats me - it’s everything.

I’m 25 and I know once I move out of this hell hole called a home, I’ll leave and never look back, and I’ll limit communication.

I’ve been through some dark moments these past 3 years, after moving back home after uni. While at uni, I lost weight and I felt the best I’ve ever felt, I wasn’t chubby or slightly overweight after a long time and she absolutely hated it. She’d call me anorexic and bulimic and intentionally pile my plate up with food. Now I’ve gained some weight back, she’s happy. She smirked at the fact I can’t fit into clothes. I also developed cavities for the first time in my life. I even had to get a root canal.

My dental hygiene was always fine until I moved back. I fell into a deep depression, being around such a hateful, miserable energy, someone tearing me down everyday. I was emotionally eating. I wasn’t taking care of myself. And she enjoyed watching me self-destruct. She couldn’t contain her smile and excitement after learning about my cavities. Just the same when she noticed I gained weight.

It’s horrible. I’ll never understand how a mother can treat their own daughter this way. I just really wanted to highlight how being around a hateful narcissist can reprogram your mind and change your daily habits. I don’t even look the same anymore. My skin started breaking out from the stress, I’ve never had skin issues before. Under my eyes look dark and sunken. I look completely drained and this is what she’s done to me through her hateful energy.

Before I moved back, I was glowing. I looked youthful and now I look dull and drained. If you have the opportunity to move out now, do it!!! I know I’m going to need intense therapy once I leave, whenever that will be.