Avoiding word vomit when disclosing to family that we’ve left the church 🤮

A common theme I’ve found that others tend to give when providing tips on what to say to loved ones that you’ve left the church is “less is more” (e.g. don’t unload all the church issues, etc). That makes a lot of sense and I totally get the reasoning for that.

However, when defining what “less”, means, part of me really wants to specify our leaving was not due to the common TBM misconceptions, e.g. we were lazy, wanted to sin, it was easier, we didn’t try hard enough, never really had a testimony, etc.

Would specifying these common misconceptions be word vomiting?