Where to meet genuine people other than dating apps?

I’m 34F. Single (3years). No kids. Have a stable job. Own a place. Mentally & physically healthy. Well groomed. I have a loving family and a supportive group of friends. I pretty much have my own sh!t together. I want to have a family, am looking for my person to do life with. I don’t go out much. I go to work, go home. So dating apps seem to be the most accessible dating tools these days. Yet I kept meeting incompatible men on dating apps. Some context here:

I had an awful breakup with an ex partner of 4 years. We split in 2021. I decided to stay single to work on myself and heal from the trauma. The healing journey took more than 2 years for me to get back to baseline. I was celibate during this time.

I decided to go back on dating apps. Every man I met this year on the apps either has commitment issues, still not over their ex (many of them), flaky hot and cold, left me confused. They all have different red flags but I thought if they keep pursuing me, and make effort I could overlook the differences because after all no one’s perfect, so am I. I shouldn’t be too judgmental. But one thing I’m having a hard time compromising is that I don’t want to have sex too early. I’m a type of woman who needs commitment before sex. I need to feel safe and secure in knowing I’m only making love to someone who is my exclusive partner who loves me. But when I communicated this to the men I dated, they all started to pull away. I feel as though meeting people on the apps gives us a false sense of having options. They think there are better options out there whom they wouldn’t need a commitment for sex.

Am I being too old school for this day and age? Am I too naive for thinking commitment should be given first before sex?

Where should I go to meet good, kind men instead of dating apps?

And men, from your perspective, what do you think of women who make you wait for sex until you both are exclusive? And how long do you think you can wait?

Edit: some suggest I should have hobbies. I do have hobbies. I’m a swimmer, train weekly with targets. I also play soccer in my local football club. I surf a bit even though I’m at level 1 out of 10 lol. I’m also a history buff, talking about Roman Empire is my Roman Empire. While I occupy myself with many activities, and striving to be a ‘high value’ woman (as many self help gurus suggest) I can’t help but sometimes feel like I’m not good enough for someone!