why do these men walk all over me

i'm so tired of men love-bombing me, making plans with me, telling me i'm exactly what they need, making love to me, promising me so many things only to just randomly go non-chalant on me randomly and ignore or ghost me. i can't be the one doing something wrong, i can't be the one who is in the wrong, what they're doing is so rude and cruel and they don't even think about it. but i suffer and i cry so much and i lay in bed with my anxiety rotting me from the inside out. fine, i get it. dating isn't for me. i tried it for a year and all it did was make me wanna tear myself up in fits of constant rage.