Faulty use of "fetish"

I think a lot of times the word fetish is mis-appropriated, specifically to fit a narrative.

To me, a fetish means sexual attraction caused by certain body parts, items or activities.

For example when people talk about an Asian fetish, I think it's often misused. I have always thought Asians look cute, afaik before I even knew anything about sex.

And a lesbian fetish, when I just think a lot of queer coded women just look cool.

It's almost like the word is weaponized to be used when men like something that women don't want them to like.