Why can’t I stay in remission?

I am very irritated and feel defeated as I near 3 years of on and off flare ups. I was in the most severe flare of my life about a year ago and I have since managed my symptoms and am doing much better. However, I literally cannot stay in remission. I bleed, then do a course of enemas. I am ok for about a month then I bleed again. I do another course of different enemas or suppositories and I am ok for about a month. This has been the cycle for this entire year and I am frustrated. I’m not sure if I just am not understanding the nature of this disease? If my doctor is not managing me well? Or if something else is going on?

How have others achieved and maintained remission? Any tips or advice?