Honestly, how do you have time for your spouse?

We have 5 daughters ages 4-12. He gets up at 5am and gets home from work around 4:30-5pm. I get up at 6:30 for work and get the kids after school, we're home by 3:45ish.

By the time dinner, homework, showers, and prep for the next day is done, we're dead tired. Kids go to bed at 8pm and we usually just head to bed too.

Most nights we say we'll watch tv in bed and hang out. We never do. Maybe once a month we watch an episode of a show and then pass out before 9pm.

It's quite literally impossible for us to get a babysitter for 5 kids. None of our family will watch all 5 kids and if we try to split them up, the kids pitch a massive fit. If we hire a babysitter then we won't have the money to do anything once we leave the house lol. We've tried. Nobody wants to babysit that many kids for less than a hundred bucks and I don't blame them, but that's just not in our budget right now.

Like seriously, where do you find time to spend with your spouse/partner? We never get a chance to talk about things, we don't get to hang out together or go to dinner alone or even have the bed to ourselves most of the time cause there's always one kid that ends up between us.

We're just so tired. So, so tired.

We try to like stay in the kitchen while the other one is cooking so we can just be together but of course the kids interrupt constantly. We sit next to each other on the couch till kids or dogs squeeze between us. God forbid we stay in the living room when the kids go to bed, they come out every 10 minutes to ask why we're not sleeping. I feel like we can't do anything by ourselves. We can't even have a conversation without kids interrupting and talking about something else. It's frustrating.