My Mother is Causing Problems in our Life

So, I've been married for almost 3 years now and have a really lovely kid. This was an arranged marriage, and everything was done according to my mother's will. She chose the girl and liked her, everything went smooth and we were home. The problems started after 4 months of marriage. My mother, as desi mothers do (Pakistani) started criticizing my wife on small things. In the beginning we both ignored and thought maybe this was a phase of her having to adjust with another woman in the house who also runs the kitchen. This did not stop! She had issues with my wife in almost everything.

  • Why she waked up late?
  • Why she doesn't serve breakfast in bed?
  • Why she does work slow?
  • Why she doesn't wash clothes on time and remove them when they are dry?

You get the idea. When we are out of the house, she comes in our room and check things. Even the trashbin. One time we forgot the key of our drawer in the lock and came back to see the things out of order. Our condoms bag (yes we use condoms) was open and at a different place.

I've always defended my wife in every situation and because of this defending her, I've had fights with my mother multiple times. This came to a point that she straight up told me that, "You don't have any right to claim the property or the money after we sold our land. Take your things and get out of the house".

I've tried talking to her multiple times that please have some sympathy for my wife, but she doesn't even listens. I can't go away from the house because my father is a Heart patient and has dialysis three times a week, so I need to take him to the hospital. My 1 elder brother is in out of city and 1 younger brother is out of country for studies. I'm the only one here. I've managed everything from hospital bills to grocery to taking care of my parents.

But this attitude of my mother has turned my love for her to no feeling at all, same for my father. I feel like I've started to hate both of them.

Do let me know what can I do to make things somewhat okay and livable?