What did you look for in a partner?

Sometimes I see posts that say "I make 200k and my wife makes 11k and we have two kids in private school."

Other times I see posts saying "I make 150k my partner makes 148k and we struggle to split the bills equally due to him/her wanting to keep her bonus."

So it just makes me curious, as a Henry or Henry-aiming person what did you look for in a partner? Particularly directed to women.