Why is love so hard to come by?

I just wanna love someone so deeply and them reciprocating it, but why is that feels so impossible for me? Why is that so unreachable?

Cue Odette from Swan Lake- 'Is beauty all that matters to you?'

Yeah I'm not pretty, but I think can be pretty kind, pretty smart, pretty funny. Unfortunately none of that matters if you are not an attractive woman.