Can anyone else not leave people no matter what they do to you or how you feel about them

Tw physical abuse, forced sex and threats of death . . . . . I cant leave people at all, i can get close to it but ill always regret my decision and come back . Ive had 1 extremely physically abusive ex who even threatened to end my life , I would still be with now if he had never left me in 2022 . My other ex wasn't that bad , he just used and forced me for sex and got mad when I said no (to be fair it was my fault for having a lower libido and denying him sex) but again I'd still be with him now if he hadn't left me in 2023.

Even if I want to leave (I wanted to leave both of them and even other people) I just cannot . I cant muster up the strength . I once had a friend intervene with the first ex , tell him he was horrible, and said I'd never see him again , but after 2 hours I texted him and we were back together . So intervention didn't work .

Only when they leave me it ends, I cant end it . It's scary to me that if I were to enter in an abusive relationship again (Which is likely, I always pick bad men, which i know is my fault but I just don't know what signs to look for) and he didn't want to leave I'd be trapped forever no matter what . Police could even tell me and him to stay apart but I wouldn't be able to (Funnily enough happened with my first) . I also can't leave friends , family , pretty much anyone .

How the hell do people leave eachother ? I cant do it at all, does anyone have the same problem ?