Leaving my partner while pregnant with his child: am I delusional?

Hello everyone,

I need your insight regarding my current relationship.

I’m (33F) in a relationship with my 39-year-old boyfriend. He has a 6-year-old son from a previous relationship. I’m currently pregnant with his child.

We moved in together a year ago because he was living with roommates. We recently moved into a bigger house that I found on my own since he told me that it was mostly a “woman’ s business” to shop houses and that my choice would be his choice anyway.

He smokes weed daily despite attempting to stop twice last year. He found a temporary job while building his business (he’s an electrician). His business is not very successful yet, but he has a plan to increase his income. My worry is that he gets demotivated very quickly (maybe because of his daily weed-smoking habit?).

Our relationship started well , despite some red flags (him cancelling plans, being contantly late, not apologizing, having old-fashioned views about women) but I realize now that we may not be a good match. I no longer feel attracted to him and don’t want to kiss him or be intimate with him.

This is also probably due to his lack of organization/motivation, tendancy to procrastinate, his poor hygiene and his lack of involvement in the household. He doesn’t necessary help out unless I ask for it and he’s kind of a messy person (leaving his dirty clothes for weeks in the hamper, not wiping out the counter after eating, etc…) My friends told me that most men are the same but being a very clean person, it bothers me a lot.

He is very affectionate, romantic and wants to have intercourse quite regularly. I refuse to, most of the time and he is very unhappy about this. We’re both unhappy it seems.

Deep down, I feel like I should leave him and that we’re not a good match, but I don’t know if it’s the pregnancy making me think like that.

I don’t want to deprive my child of his father, but I don’t feel like I want to pursue a long-term relationship with him. He’s very kind and I don’t him to be with someone who doesn’t make him happy.

I don’t know what to do and I’m in great despair. Thank you for any guidance you can provide.

PS: sorry for the spelling mistakes, I’m not a native English speaker.