Rejected because of my boobs… I guess?
I have been talking to a guy on a dating app for a few days and we had plans to meet up tonight. We were talking about work on the first day and I sent a video of myself from a recent news segment about my job. I wasn’t dressed sexy or showing any cleavage, but I have a noticeable chest and the height of the table that I was sitting at drew attention to them as well so idk they were just really emphasized. They exist, I can’t help it.
So today he messaged me and told me that he wants to cancel for tonight because he’s feeling burned out and dealing with a lot of stuff from his kids and I didn’t take offense to that because I definitely understand that feeling. Plus we had only been talking for a few days so it’s not like I had my heart set on meeting up with him. But at the end of his (long) message, he threw this in-
“I sincerely don't want to waste your time. Ill be blunt I guess, I say this in the most complimentary way, your breasts are compelling me to bad intentions, and I'm trying to be ethical here and add a but, I know long term they're too much for me? Which is just a matter of preference not any fault to you, and again strongly I am compelled...but I wouldn't want to offend down the road and I wouldn't want to hurt you.“
Like… is he saying that he doesn’t want to meet me because he likes big boobs and I guess he feels like he’d be objectifying me? Or is he saying that he doesn’t want to meet me because he DOESN’T like big boobs? I asked him to clarify and told him that it was a really bizarre and unnecessary thing to tell someone but I don’t expect to get a response. Does anyone have any insight? I’m not going to be losing any sleep over it but IT WAS A WEIRD THING TO SAY!