Contemplating divorce
I married my wife 2 years ago and things were good until a few months ago. I am 29 and my wife is 28.
My wife and I agreed before marriage that everything will be split 50/50 when it comes to finances contributed towards the marriage, household chores and cooking, babysitting of and once we have kids, etc etc.
I make 26L and wife made 23L. 3 months back though, she quit her job saying she is feeling extreme burnout. Now I was fine with that decision initially because it made her much more lively the moment she quit.
But a couple months in and it's affecting our marriage. She is not looking to get another job anytime soon. But she is not willing to take on more household chores and cooking.
I don't see any reason for me to be taking up both financial burden and household stuff. I feel like I'm being taken for a ride.
I've been contemplating about divorce. It's going to be painful for both of us. But since the fundamentals on which our marriage was built seem to have changed, I think it makes sense.
Here's some things that I have to consider if going for divorce, and I need advice on.
We have bought a house together and the mortgage is on both our names. I've never been one to get attached to houses so I don't really care about keeping the house but my wife spent almost 1.5 years meticulously decorating this house. I don't want to take it away from her. But the bank wouldn't let me off the hook on the loan. Especially now since she doesn't earn and neither would I get my share of the money back. So I have come to the conclusion that the only way would be to sell it. In case she turns bitter and doesn't let me off the hook on the house, how do I protect myself?
We have a car than I bought entirely by myself and I want keep it. How do I protect it in case divorce isn't amicable?
We have always kept our investment accounts separate and she's got about 65L in hers and I've got about 1.4Cr in mine. How do I prevent paying part of it in alimony?
Is it possible to avoid alimony? If so, how?