State of teamwork in this game is miserable

To preface this, I have tons of experience in games like Arma 3 and Squad but currently only play on Playstation so I am limited to vanilla servers and tbh most of the time I am disappointed with my experience.

It takes me up to an hour to find a server and a squad where people actually talk and try to work towards a goal together like capturing or defending a base, doing logistic runs etc. Most of the time it is a disorganised chaos of more than a dozen one-two man squads and lots of tactical barbies syphoning all the supplies only to die to a default AK dude in a bush 5 minutes later.

Where do you go for a good vanilla experience with crossplay enabled?